Life Groups Discussion Questions

May 9/10th, 2020 – REALationships

Part 4: “The Purpose and Power of Family”

Pastor Kerry Shook

Three Essential Questions
After watching the message take some time reflect on the following three questions.

  1. What did you hear? What point in this message was most impactful for you?
  2. What do you think? How did this message challenge, change, or affirm your thinking?
  3. What will you do? How will you put into practice what you’ve learned today?

ACTION PLAN: If you are not in a life group, visit https://www.wc.org/lifegroups/  to get connected!

“Therefore everyone who hears these words of Mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house; yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock.  Matthew 7:24-25 (NIV)

1. THE FAMILY IS A SHELTER FROM STORMS

“Reverence for God gives a man deep strength; his children have a place of refuge and security.”       Proverbs 14:26 (TLB)

3 Storms That Hit Every Home

  • The Winds of Change

“For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven….”                 Ecclesiastes 3:1 (NIV)

  • The Hard Freeze of Failure

“Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble.” Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 (NLT)

  • The Cold Rain of Rejection

“A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.” Ecclesiastes 4:12 (NLT)

2. THE FAMILY IS A GARDEN FOR GROWTH

“May our sons flourish in their youth like well-nurtured plants….”                                                         Psalm 144:12a (NLT)

“And Jesus grew in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and man.”                                                        Luke 2:52 (NIV)

Jesus grew in …

Wisdom – intellectual development

Stature – physical development

Favor with God – spiritual development

Favor with men – social development

· Relationships        · Character            · Values

“Let each generation tell its children of your mighty acts; let them proclaim Your power.”                                Psalm 145:4 (NLT)

“And you must think constantly about these commandments I am giving you today. You must teach them to your children and talk about them when you are at home or out for a walk; at bedtime and the first thing in the morning.”                         Deuteronomy 6:6-7 (TLB)

3. THE FAMILY IS A FACTORY FOR FUN

“Every day is a terrible day for a miserable person, but a cheerful heart has a continual feast.”                        Proverbs 15:15 (GWT)

4. THE FAMILY IS A LAUNCHING PAD FOR A LIFE MISSION

“But if serving the LORD seems undesirable to you, then choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve, whether the gods your ancestors served beyond the Euphrates, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land you are living. But as for me and my household, we will serve the LORD.”     Joshua 24:15 (NIV)

“The LORD bless you and keep you; the LORD make His face shine on you and be gracious to you; the LORD turn His face toward you and give you peace.”                                  Numbers 6:24-26 (NIV)

Close by praying over each other in your Life Group.

May 2/3rd, 2020 – REALationships

Part 3: “The Real F Word”

Pastor Kerry Shook

Three Essential Questions
After watching the message take some time reflect on the following three questions.

  1. What did you hear? What point in this message was most impactful for you?
  2. What do you think? How did this message challenge, change, or affirm your thinking?
  3. What will you do? How will you put into practice what you’ve learned today?

ACTION PLAN: If you are not in a life group, visit https://www.wc.org/lifegroups/  to get connected!

“God is faithful and reliable. If we confess our sins, He forgives them and cleanses us from everything we’ve done wrong.” 1 John 1:9 (GW)

FORGIVENESS andFAITHFULNESS

  • Forgiveness isn’t shallow
  • Forgiveness isn’t restoration
  • Forgiveness isn’t normal, but it is necessary
  • Forgiveness isn’t natural; it’s supernatural

1. RELEASE BITTERNESS 

“If he sins against you seven times in a day, and seven times comes back to you and says, ‘I repent,’ forgive him.”  Luke 17:4 (NIV)

2. RECEIVE GRACE 

“Blessed is he whose transgression is forgiven, whose sin is covered.”                                                Psalm 32:1 (KJV)

“The next day John saw Jesus coming toward him. John said, ‘Look, the Lamb of God. He takes away the sins of the world!’” John 1:29 (ICB)

“… do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you.” Luke 6:27-28 (NIV)

FAITHFULNESS

Faithfulness is not about the talk, but all about the walk.

“Many will say they are loyal friends, but who can find one who is truly reliable?”                          Proverbs 20:6 (NLT)

Faithfulness is not about the big event, but all about the small moments.

“He who is faithful in a very little thing is faithful also in much ….”                                                  Luke 16:10 (NASB)

Faithfulness is not about my strength, but all about God’s grace.

“But He said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for My power is made perfect in weakness.’ Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.”                                           2 Corinthians 12:9 (NIV)

Faithfulness is not about how you start, but all about how you finish.

“Love … always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.”       1 Corinthians 13:7-8 (NIV)

Close by praying over each other in your Life Group.

April 25/26th, 2020 – REALationships

Part 2: “Love and war”

Pastor Kerry Shook

Three Essential Questions
After watching the message take some time reflect on the following three questions.

  1. What did you hear? What point in this message was most impactful for you?
  2. What do you think? How did this message challenge, change, or affirm your thinking?
  3. What will you do? How will you put into practice what you’ve learned today?

ACTION PLAN: If you are not in a life group, visit https://www.wc.org/lifegroups/  to get connected!

“Love is invincible facing danger and death. Passion laughs at the terrors of hell. The fire of love stops at nothing— it sweeps everything before it. Flood waters can’t drown love, torrents of rain can’t put it out. Love can’t be bought, love can’t be sold— it’s not to be found in the marketplace.”  Song of Solomon 8:6-7 (MSG)

  1. LOWER YOUR DEFENSES AND RISK REVEALING YOUR TRUE FEELINGS

“Instead, we lovingly follow the truth at all times – speaking truly, dealing truly, living truly ….”           Ephesians 4:15 (TLB)

2. STOP FIGHTING EACH OTHER AND START FIGHTING FOR A DEEPER CONNECTION   

“Go ahead and be angry. You do well to be angry—but don’t use your anger as fuel for revenge. And don’t stay angry. Don’t go to bed angry. Don’t give the Devil that kind of foothold in your life.”                                                     Ephesians 4:26-27 (MSG)

   Weak and         __________________      Strong and

   superficial       ___ CONFLICT ___       deep  

   connection      ___________________      connection

  • Don’t attack and don’t retreat

“… don’t use your anger as fuel for revenge.” 

                                                      Ephesians 4:26b (MSG)

“Don’t go to bed angry. Don’t give the devil that kind of foothold in your life.”                 Ephesians 4:26c-27 (MSG)

  • Stay on the battlefield until you hear their heart

3. IDENTIFY THE REAL ENEMY AND THE REAL FORTRESS 

“The thief comes only in order to steal, kill, and destroy. I have come in order that you might have life—life in all its fullness.”  John 10:10 (GNT)

“But He was pierced for our transgressions, He was crushed for our iniquities; the punishment that brought us peace was on Him, and by His wounds we are healed.”  Isaiah 53:5 (NIV) 

“And I will restore to you the years that the locust hath eaten ….” Joel 2:25 (KJV)

Close by praying over each other in your Life Group.

April 18/19th, 2020 – REALationships

“I love you but I can’t stand you right now”

Pastor Kerry Shook

Three Essential Questions
After watching the message take some time reflect on the following three questions.

  1. What did you hear? What point in this message was most impactful for you?
  2. What do you think? How did this message challenge, change, or affirm your thinking?
  3. What will you do? How will you put into practice what you’ve learned today?

ACTION PLAN: If you are not in a life group, visit https://www.wc.org/lifegroups/  to get connected!

 I.  UNDERSTAND THE POWER OF MY WORDS

  • My Words have the Power to direct my life

“We can make a large horse go wherever we want by means of a small bit in its mouth.  And a small rudder makes a huge ship turn wherever the pilot chooses to go, even though the winds are strong.”                               James 3:3, 4 (NLT)

  • My Words have the Power to build up or burn down my relationships

“But a tiny spark can set a great forest on fire. And the tongue is a flame of fire.”                                  James 3:5, 6 (NLT)

 II.  COMMIT TO WISE FIGHTING WORDS

But the wisdom from above is first of all pure. It is also peace loving, gentle at all times, and willing to yield to others. It is full of mercy and good deeds. It shows no favoritism and is always sincere. And those who are peacemakers will plant seeds of peace and reap a harvest of righteousness.” James 3:17-18 (NLT)

7 Rules for Wise Fighting

  • Always check my motives

“… wisdom from above is first of all pure.”

  • Never attack the person; attack the issue

“… wisdom from above is … also peace loving …”

  • Never raise my voice

“… wisdom from above is … gentle at all times.”

  • Never interrupt

“… wisdom from above is … wiling to yield to others.”

  • Never keep score

“… wisdom from above is … full of mercy …”

  • Always follow the talk with action

“… wisdom from above is … full of good deeds.”

  • Always speak from my heart

“… wisdom from above is … always sincere.”

III.  ALLOW GOD TO CLEANSE AND FILL MY SOUL

And so blessing and cursing come pouring out of the same mouth. Surely, my brothers and sisters, this is not right! Does a spring of water bubble out with both fresh water and bitter water? Does a fig tree produce olives, or a grapevine produce figs? No, and you can’t draw fresh water from a salty spring.”

 James 3:10-12 (NLT)

“Therefore everyone who hears these words of Mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house; yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock.”                            Matthew 7:24, 25 (NIV)

Close by praying over each other in your Life Group.